Intuitive Coaching 101–First Aid for Narcissistic Abuse (Self-Love)

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Do not be fooled by the kindness of a narcissist stranger. The apple is poisonous.

In the past two years since I learned about narcissism, I have met countless people who have suffered narcissistic abuse. They often have hurt or angry expressions on their faces, poor posture, and low self-esteem. They believe that they are shattered but have survived the shattering.

And then I discovered wise sages who suffered this abuse and made it to the other side. They are like Persephone in the Greek myth who returns from Hades a transformed woman. Survive narcissistic abuse and then take those experiences to enlighten others. This is called thriving.

I have learned basic thriving skills from my own experiences with narcissistic abuse and from the stories other people have shared. Those of us who are about to make it to the other side or who are already waiting on the other side share commonalities. First and foremost, they have practiced self-care and stopped blaming themselves for other people’s toxic behaviors.

We all require a first aid kit when dealing with narcissistic people who are around us on a daily basis–at home, at work, and in the community. Here’s what I learned from my experiences and the teachings of others:

  1. Take your focus off the narcissist or person with toxic behavior. Then place that focus on your interests and passions.
  2. Practice self-forgiveness (It’s not your fault others abuse you).
  3. Practice self-love in the extreme. Play with your inner child and let your inner child know how much you love and adore him or her.
  4. Eat a healthy diet of super foods and stay clear of junk food (which robs you of your life force).
  5. Exercise, preferably outdoors in nature
  6. Spend time with animals
  7. Play more and don’t allow guilt to creep in
  8. Refrain from drinking alcohol or partaking in drugs (these substances create holes on your aura and allow narcissistic people to attach energy cords to you)
  9. Have a sense of humor
  10. Meditate and get in touch with angels and spiritual guides
  11. Allow yourself discomfort as you hang around non-abusive people (they will feel unfamiliar to you at first)
  12. Pursue your passions, gifts, and interests and don’t allow anyone to stop you
  13. Know that the narcissist is projecting his or her own faults on to you (they tell lies about you and their criticism is really about them, and not you)
  14. Make yourself narcissist-proof by not trying to please others
  15. Give up your idea of perfectionism
  16. Connect to the Universal Force also known as, God
  17. Take plenty of Epsom salt baths to clear your aura and cleanse your body
  18. Do a juice detox of your physical body
  19. Seek therapy
  20. Wear protective gemstones on your body that ward of negative energy (tourmaline, obsidian, tiger’s eye, and hematite along with rose quartz)

Stop narcissistic abuse by setting clear and firm boundaries. Never waver from those boundaries and know that the narcissist will use every trick in his or her book, including fake kindness/concern to get you to lift your boundaries. Learn to say no, and stop trying to please others. Stop looking to others to heal your core wounds. And stop looking to others to rescue you or fill you up because you feel lonely or empty. That only makes you the perfect target for a narc.

Heal your wounds and become narc-proof. And then like the others who crossed the finish line and thrive today, learn from your experiences and then teach others how to escape narcissistic abuse. I am imagining a planet that is peaceful, harmonious, and filled with love. There are no narcissists on this planet. Let’s co-create this new peaceful world.

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Whole Astrology–North Node moves into the Sign of the Lion

On May 10, 2017, the North Node moves into Leo and the South Node moves into Aquarius.

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Neptune Girl Recites the History of Western Astrology (the condensed version)

In 2012 (or was it 2013?), I gave an astrology lecture at Village Books in Bellingham, Washington. I presented the history through a PowerPoint slide show and lecture. Then during the past several years, I wanted to convert the presentation into a video.  After a little research, I learned how to do that. However, I had to record the narration three or four times. First, I recorded the narration with the program Audacity. That didn’t work. Then I narrated the video with the PowerPoint program. That didn’t work. So, I saved the slides individually and uploaded them on to Movie Maker and then learned that I would need to narrate the slides again!

So, the video is far from perfect. I hope you still glean historical facts about astrology and you feel proud to join the astrology train. Subscribe to my YouTube channel, Astrologer Patricia. Thank you.

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Neptune Girl Gazes at the Gemini New Moon (Oracle Card Read)

Thankfully, the Taurus New Moon brought us a sweet time of respite. To quote the Monty Python writers, the Gemini New Moon brings up the phrase, “And now for something totally different…” The Gemini New Moon comes to us from left field and it’s a whammy. How will you use this energy to heal your inner wounds?

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Intuitive Coaching 101–Creating Your Vision with Glue Stick & Scissors

vision boardEver since I created my first vision board while I was participating in the Artist’s Way program the first time, I have become a fan of vision boards. I have honed my techniques over the years thanks to the advice of metaphysical coaches Sandra Anne Taylor and Sonia Choquette.

For those of you reading this post who have never created a vision board, dream box, or wish book, I’m going to mention a few tips I learned from the pro-coaches. I’m also including examples of my vision boards. You might also check out YouTube videos on creating vision boards, especially if you are a visual or audio learner.

Your basic supplies are images which you can create yourself through drawing, painting, or through photographs. Or you can rip images from magazines. Then you will also require a good pair of scissors (I prefer using children’s scissors) and glue sticks.

Carve out an hour in your day and find a quiet space where you can create your own ritual for creating your vision board. Remove all distractions including your computer, phone, and other devices. However, playing uplifting music in the background can enhance the process.

Once you’ve selected and sorted through your images, arrange them on a large piece of cardboard or thick paper. Then glue them into place. At this point, write affirmations and power words on the collage you have created and then for extra magical effect, either draw yourself in the middle of the board or add a profile photo. This speeds up the manifestation process according to Sandra Anne Taylor (she mentioned this trick in one of her Hay House Radio shows).

Once you complete the board, find a location to hang it or prop it against a wall. If you decide to cover both sides of the images, then hang a string across your work or play space and then use clothes pins to hang the image so you can view both sides. Personally, I like using both sides of the board and I love to cram in images. Some people prefer lots of white space around their images. It’s all about preference.

If you live in a tiny house or small space and you don’t want to display a huge vision board, you can also create wish books or treasure boxes (see photos below). For the treasure box, find a small box you like. Then decorate the outside of the box with images. You can also paste images inside the box. Then in the future when you find images or items representing your desires, toss those in the box. Keep the box on an altar or hide it in a drawer so you can pull it out six months or a year from the date you created the treasure box to see what you manifested. This is fun.

Finally, if you prefer creating a wish book, buy any inexpensive composition book or journal at a dollar store. And then follow the tips for the vision board. Except instead of working with a large piece of paper, you cut the images to fit the pages of your composition book or journal. And here’s a trick, don’t complete the entire book in one sitting. Spend six months gathering and pasting images into your wish book.

I came up with the name “wish book” because I experienced a childhood memory of the Sears catalog that we called a wish book when I was a child. And in a way, perusing the pages of that thick catalog (which you could use as a door stop), I sent rockets of desire into my childhood vortex. It’s funny in a way because I ended up manifesting some of those 1970s styles found in the pages of the catalog when I bought vintage clothing as an adult. Some desires take decades to manifest! Remember we manifest after we release resistance to our desires. And that could take decades.

I have also experienced quicker manifestations that took only months. I manifested a pair of moccasin boots within several months of desiring a pair of moccasin slippers. I’m including the photo below.

So, there you go. Now manifest your desires by creating your reality with glue, paper, and images.

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Whole Astrology–Taurus New Moon Coming up April 26, 2017

Currently, Saturn, Pluto, Mercury, and Jupiter are RX. Mars is in Gemini and the Sun is in Taurus.

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Whole Astrology–Scorpio Full Moon

Coming up on May 10, 2017. Thanks to Mercury RX, I did run into an echo problem with my microphone. Thanks for your patience.

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Intuitive Coaching 101–It’s Not Your Fault (when you feel angry at a narcissist)

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I know that I said I wouldn’t write any more posts about narcissists. The problem is that narcissists in all their various stripes are throwing chaos upon the world. They run our economies, they run corporations, the government, the media, and all the industries and religions. They show up as teachers in schools. They show up as community leaders. They show up as police officers. And they don’t give a blank about any of us.

If you are a kind and loving person just for the sake of it, you encounter narcissists. They prey upon kind people. They prey on authentic people. They prey on confident and successful people (who harbor guilt or shame). They prey on children. They prey on the elderly. They prey on people who find themselves in desperate situations. And they’re so good at acting and wearing masks that often you don’t know their true identity until it’s too late. Then the real damage has been done to your brain and your physical body.

Narcissists have games that they play to control and manipulate you. They are worst than having a large tapeworm swimming in your gut. They will cause worst damage than a disease because they cause dis-ease. Some of their games include gaslighting which they use to make you feel like you’re losing your mind. They also do something called hoovering which is their way of sucking you of your life force and then dumping their inadequacies and projections on you.

For most of my life, I have been prey to narcissists. Only I didn’t have a label or any knowledge of these folks. All I knew was that I suffered from depression and anxiety. I suffered from inflammation in my body and nothing ever went smoothly in my life. I dated narcissists who left me feeling like an empty shell. I had bosses and landlords of this ilk. And I’ve shared houses with them. And here is what I learned from my own experiences.

  • It’s important that we forgive ourselves because we are not at fault when dealing with this type of human predator (also lumped in with psychopaths and sociopaths).
  • It’s not our job to be kind to them and enable them to play their wicked games
  • Analyzing them or going to counseling with them is not helpful (they will use this against you)
  • If you meet someone that seems too agreeable and lacking a personality, run, because you are most likely dealing with a covert narcissist (the worst kind)
  • Don’t be fooled by authority figures who say they have your best interest at heart while you feel that they are actually abusing you (follow your intuition)
  • If you feel sick around a person, suffer from obesity (after you have met them), or suffer from an autoimmune disease (after you have met them), there is a good chance you are dealing with a narcissist
  • If you believe that you are with a narcissist, come up with an exit plan now
  • You cannot change a narcissist even if he or she says that he or she will try harder because they care about you
  • They have no empathy and when they say that you are hurting their feelings (guilt trip) you have actually wounded their ego (and they will get revenge)
  • The souls of narcissists have exited their body and ego is completely running the show
  • While a narcissist would seem like a decent person if they chose to get therapy and heal themselves, most of them will never do this. They won’t do this because too many of us are enabling their behavior
  • Our societies worship narcissists. We give them power over our businesses. We spend money on narcissistic entertainers and call this “artist temperament”. Our societies vote narcissists into top political offices

So what can we do?

  • Research narcissism through articles in scientific journals and watch YouTube videos by experts (And in my opinion, those of us who have endured relationships with narcissists count as experts)
  • Educate your non-narcissists friends and families about this epidemic
  • Heal any issues of codependencies, lack of self-worth, and practice self-care
  • Support your friends, colleagues, and family members as they get out of relationships with narcs (your friends should never have to go to a shelter. Open up your home to them)
  • Don’t spend money on entertainment presented by narcissistic entertainers, authors, or other cultural icons because this says that narcissism is okay when in fact, it is harmful to the planet
  • And finally, stand up for yourself, balance your emotions, and fill yourself up with your talents, skills, positive attributes and love (this makes you almost narcissistic-proof.

I believe that the only way to bring peace on the planet is to heal this epidemic on the planet. And to stop allowing parasitic people to prey on us.

Look for videos by Ross Rosenberg, Lisa Romano, Meredith Miller, and Kim Saeed. Use their meditations for best results if they supply them. And blessings on your journey to wholeness and authenticity.

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Intuitive Coaching 101–5 Practices for Manifestations

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First off, we are always manifesting. We could not live on the Earth and function without manifesting some kind of reality around us. The way others react to us, the way we react to others, and all the structures around us come from ours and the collective manifestation process. The world shows up when we show up.

DSCN3095So here are five tools for manifesting intentionally instead of haphazardly. Remember that we are always manifesting. It’s up to you to manifest a life that is worth living. No one can do that for you. And you have the power to heal your mind and to manifest a better world.

  1. Clear away false programming in our Subconscious Minds

I believe that this is the most important practice for manifesting our true desires. When we are in the womb and as children, we pick up other people’s programming or they brainwash us so that they can mold us into their distorted reality. In other words, we learn how to become co-dependent, addicted, confused, and depressed. When we are in those states of minds, we manifest nightmares instead of dreams. Therefore, it is crucial that we seek out energy and other types of healers to help us clear our channels and heal our subconscious minds.

2. Get out of our Thoughts and Pay Attention to Sensations and Feelings in Our Bodies

John Newton is one of the best teachers of this practice. When we allow our minds and egos to rattle on like a to-do list, we fail to hear messages from our bodies. Yet, our bodies are GPS for us. Our bodies tell us when we veer off course the way a GPS tells us that our car is veering off course. Intuition shows up in our bodies as sensations, hunches, and feelings. This helps us in our waking and our dream lives. And we can use this same powerful energy by harnessing our visions and vision boards to it. So, pay attention to your body’s messages. Even illness has messages for us. It tells us we are veering off course or that we need to clear the way for our dreams to enter.

3. Meditation

How can we expect to manifest our desires when we say we don’t have time even for a five- minute meditation? Meditation helps us to get in touch with our bodies. Meditation helps us to become more mindful and to hear our inner voice or Higher Self. We accomplish more through meditation than from running around trying to make things happen. Believe me, I have learned this lesson the hard way. When we watch the pot waiting for the water to boil it takes longer to reach the boiling point than when we focus our attention elsewhere. Meditation allows the Universal Forces to come in and shape our lives. Meditation is easier on the body than multitasking or micromanaging our dreams.

Find numerous meditation practices online and in books. You decide which one works best for you. Hypnosis, reiki, and manifestation videos are all meditation practices. They all work.

4. Get into Your Body (Get Grounded and Centered with the Earth’s Magnetic Field)

This one feels almost like a repeat of paying attention to sensations and feelings. However, through meditation, dance, breath work, and yoga (and other practices), we get in touch with our physical bodies. We are here now instead of in our minds which want to travel far ahead into the future. Life is always better, we think, over the rainbow or on the other side of the fence. Only it’s not and that’s our ego tricking us. If we’re not happy in this moment and in our bodies now, we cannot manifest happiness over the horizon.

We must stop dissociating from our bodies and love our bodies no matter its shape, size, or age. How else can we expect to manifest our desires if we don’t even love and take care of our bodies? We can’t. It’s impossible to manifest intentionally when we are floating outside of our bodies. How do you expect to enjoy and abundance and prosperity if you are a space boy or a space girl? So exercise, eat the right foods and get a massage. Heal any programming that causes you to dissociate. This does involve healing co-dependency and addictions.

5. Work with Your Guides and Higher Self

Tune into your Higher Self and find out what you truly desire. Our brains or minds aren’t usually in alignment with our Soul or our Soul’s true purpose. This is because life on this planet has allowed society to highjack our souls. We are told what to want and how to go about manifesting collective desires. We are told what and who to value. And most of us don’t even know this is happening.

When we meditate we glean counterintuitive information. What we learn goes against the grain of what our families, heritage, and cultures have taught us. We realize at some point that we desire other people’s dreams instead of our own. We are like the college kid who has to major in what his father wants instead of what serves his passion. Or I still meet women who serve their husband’s or partner’s wishes instead of her own. I once met a woman who had to ask her husband who she could vote for in a general election. What?

So, it comes down to finding out who you are. You can’t become authentic if you’re mirroring other people’s wishes. Meditation is the quickest route to your Higher Self. I like to call this the Super Highway of our Consciousness.

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Intuitive Coaching 101–Launch into Spring

dscn6337I apologize for anyone reading this who resides in the Southern Hemisphere. Since I reside in the Northern Hemisphere, I’m unable to wrap my mind around fall. I’m experiencing spring and so this post focuses on activities that usher in the season of buds, blossoms, and baby animals.

I’m also focusing on body cleanses, change of diet, change of wardrobe, and getting life back in our step.

First, let’s look at diet. My Spirit Guides and Higher Self have been telling me to eat more sprouted food, more soured food, and more seeds. Now, if you are a vegan or vegetarian you are already doing this to some degree. And you also want to hold off on eating lots of greens, including sprouted grasses until the weather warms up a bit. I found that when I indulged in greens (in a big way), including sprouts and it was cold and windy outside, I felt chilled and exhausted. Also, wait until the weather warms up before returning to smoothies, especially if you use ice or frozen fruit.

If you are eating lighter, then you can go easy on body cleanses (detoxing pollutants out of your internal organs). And remember to consult with a medical practitioner before using any of the following herbs. Just because something is natural, doesn’t always mean you can handle it. Cleansing herbs include Red Clover, Burdock, Dandelion Root, and Milk Thistle. Cleansing foods include fiber, greens, and beets. Many people drink teas or juices with these herbs or drink live juices of vegetables, fruits, and grasses. Go slow with a cleanse. When I tried to rush a cleanse, I ended up suffering from digestion, skin, and other issues.

Start an exercise program that gets you out in nature. This could include jogging, walking, biking, hiking, or yoga at a park. If you suffer from allergies, see your medical practitioner about taking herbal formulas and supplements. Buy a neti pot to cleanse the sinuses of pollen, dust, and mold. This will allow you to spend time outdoors.

Your wardrobe requires revamping. It’s time to go with lighter weight and lighter color fabrics. You might go all natural if possible. See if you can find clothing made from organic cotton, bamboo, silk, or hemp. The lighter colors are easier on our eyes as we move into a new season of light. And we blend in with the natural spring colors. We also wear a lot of red during the reign of the Aries Sun (March 20 to April 20).

Set intentions during the Equinox. What do you want to accomplish or experience during the next six months until the next Equinox? Set the intention. Meditate to receive information about your next step. Then come up with a step-by-step plan that you can break down into daily doses.

When I wrote my first novel, I broke it down into writing three pages a day. I gave myself time off on the weekends. You can reward yourself when you meet your daily or weekly or monthly goals.

Remember to make a wish when you see the first robin of spring. I learned about this from Ted Andrews’ Animal Speak.

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