Intuitive Coaching 101–First Aid for Narcissistic Abuse (Self-Love)

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Do not be fooled by the kindness of a narcissist stranger. The apple is poisonous.

In the past two years since I learned about narcissism, I have met countless people who have suffered narcissistic abuse. They often have hurt or angry expressions on their faces, poor posture, and low self-esteem. They believe that they are shattered but have survived the shattering.

And then I discovered wise sages who suffered this abuse and made it to the other side. They are like Persephone in the Greek myth who returns from Hades a transformed woman. Survive narcissistic abuse and then take those experiences to enlighten others. This is called thriving.

I have learned basic thriving skills from my own experiences with narcissistic abuse and from the stories other people have shared. Those of us who are about to make it to the other side or who are already waiting on the other side share commonalities. First and foremost, they have practiced self-care and stopped blaming themselves for other people’s toxic behaviors.

We all require a first aid kit when dealing with narcissistic people who are around us on a daily basis–at home, at work, and in the community. Here’s what I learned from my experiences and the teachings of others:

  1. Take your focus off the narcissist or person with toxic behavior. Then place that focus on your interests and passions.
  2. Practice self-forgiveness (It’s not your fault others abuse you).
  3. Practice self-love in the extreme. Play with your inner child and let your inner child know how much you love and adore him or her.
  4. Eat a healthy diet of super foods and stay clear of junk food (which robs you of your life force).
  5. Exercise, preferably outdoors in nature
  6. Spend time with animals
  7. Play more and don’t allow guilt to creep in
  8. Refrain from drinking alcohol or partaking in drugs (these substances create holes on your aura and allow narcissistic people to attach energy cords to you)
  9. Have a sense of humor
  10. Meditate and get in touch with angels and spiritual guides
  11. Allow yourself discomfort as you hang around non-abusive people (they will feel unfamiliar to you at first)
  12. Pursue your passions, gifts, and interests and don’t allow anyone to stop you
  13. Know that the narcissist is projecting his or her own faults on to you (they tell lies about you and their criticism is really about them, and not you)
  14. Make yourself narcissist-proof by not trying to please others
  15. Give up your idea of perfectionism
  16. Connect to the Universal Force also known as, God
  17. Take plenty of Epsom salt baths to clear your aura and cleanse your body
  18. Do a juice detox of your physical body
  19. Seek therapy
  20. Wear protective gemstones on your body that ward of negative energy (tourmaline, obsidian, tiger’s eye, and hematite along with rose quartz)

Stop narcissistic abuse by setting clear and firm boundaries. Never waver from those boundaries and know that the narcissist will use every trick in his or her book, including fake kindness/concern to get you to lift your boundaries. Learn to say no, and stop trying to please others. Stop looking to others to heal your core wounds. And stop looking to others to rescue you or fill you up because you feel lonely or empty. That only makes you the perfect target for a narc.

Heal your wounds and become narc-proof. And then like the others who crossed the finish line and thrive today, learn from your experiences and then teach others how to escape narcissistic abuse. I am imagining a planet that is peaceful, harmonious, and filled with love. There are no narcissists on this planet. Let’s co-create this new peaceful world.

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About pnwauthor

I reside in the rainy Pacific NW (Washington State) where I write novels, short "green" fiction, and poetry. I also go for walks capturing the beauty around me on my digital and freelance as an arts and culture journalist. When I'm not doing all of the above (and sometimes multi-tasking), I research the healing power of music. You can learn more about that at Whole Music Experience, www.wholemusicexp.blogspot.com and I teach workshops on healing with music.
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